Hadith on Moderation: Avoiding Insincere Praise

📖Sahih Muslim 3000 a
‘Abd al-Rahman b. Abu Bakra reported on the authority of his father that a person praised another person in the presence of Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ), whereupon he said: Woe be to thee, you have broken the neck of your friend, you have broken the neck of your friend-he said this twice. If one of you has to praise his friend at all, he should say: I think (him to be) so and Allah knows it well and I do not know the secret of the heart and Allah knows the destined end, and I cannot testify his purity against Allah but (he appears) to be so and so.

  • The message of this Hadith is clear: we should be cautious and moderate in our praise of others, especially in front of others. While it’s important to acknowledge good qualities and achievements, excessive praise can lead to arrogance and a false sense of superiority, which can harm the praised person’s spiritual and moral growth. Instead, we should adopt a humble attitude and leave the final judgment to Allah, who knows the secrets of the heart and the true nature of every person. Muslims learn from this Hadith the importance of being humble, modest, and cautious in their interactions with others. They are reminded to avoid flattery, exaggeration, and insincere praise, which can cause harm and undermine genuine relationships. The Hadith also highlights the importance of avoiding gossip and backbiting, which can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and loss of trust. Overall, this Hadith emphasizes the virtues of humility, honesty, and sincerity, which are essential for building strong and healthy relationships with others in Islam.